Christian & Pro-Sex

GETSOME

You know that feeling at 2am when you're Googling alone, hoping no one finds out? When sex feels complicated and there's no one safe to talk to about it? When you're wondering if something is wrong with you, or if you're the only one feeling this way? You're not. And you never were. GETSOME is the podcast for anyone who's carried sexual shame in silence. It's for the questions you've been too embarrassed to ask, the patterns that confuse you, and the nagging feeling that maybe you're not broken... you're just human. After a hiatus to complete her first book, certified sex therapist Michelle Fischler is back with the unshaming conversations you've been waiting for. GETSOME doesn't give you technique lists or clinical lectures. Instead, Michelle meets you at the exact point of your confusion and helps you see what's actually happening in your mind, body and your nervous system, so you can stop measuring yourself against myths and start trusting yourself. Coming April 28, 2026: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer. Learn more and pre-order at comingsoonbook.ca. Season 4 is in the works, and we're genuinely excited to be back.

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20 Apr, 2023

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Christian & Pro-Sex

De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar is Missouri's first Black Christian AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, who helps clients navigate the intersection of faith and sexuality, particularly for those who may be struggling with guilt or shame around their sexual desires and behaviors. We talk about how De-Andrea removes shame from conversations around sex by using scripture that supports pleasure, a pro choice, orgasm, pleasure perspective. We also cover the systemic issues reinforcing the barriers to having more Black certified sex therapists in the field and what White Sex Therapists need to know about how racism continues to impact Black peoples relationship with sex - and how this will continue to be reinforced as White Sex Therapists continue working from a model of sex therapy that is based on the western White person’s experience.

Show Notes:

Wanting Christians to have good sex

Systemic racism and how it affects the representation of Black people in the field of sex therapy

Using Jesus as a conduit to carry the shame

Having shame free sex doesn't mean you have to leave behind your faith

How to be Christian and pro-choice

How racism impacts the way Black men view themselves as sexual beings

Some ways of thinking about sex as a Black woman that more White sex therapists should know about

Find De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar Here:

https://www.sankofasextherapy.com/therapists

Disclaimer

If our lens on sex resonates with you, Michelle’s first book—Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer— is now available on Audible.

Narrated by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios.

Prefer the paperback or ebook?

Pre-order your copy now..

Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer — Michelle's first book — is available for pre-order now. Audio version narrated by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios.

👉 [Pre-order here]

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