Christian & Pro-Sex

GETSOME

GETSOME is the podcast for anyone who has wondered why sex can feel so complicated, so private, or so loaded with shame. Hosted by Michelle Fischler, MSW, RSW, RP, ASTO-Certified Sex Therapist, GETSOME opens honest conversations about the sexual stories people carry: desire, identity, relationships, pleasure, aging, kink, pelvic pain, trauma, masculinity, culture, race, faith, and the questions people rarely get to ask out loud. These have always been wide-ranging, story-led conversations. Shame was never the only subject, but it kept surfacing underneath. As GETSOME returns for Season 4, Michelle names that thread more directly through the unshaming framework: shame first, then technique. The work rests on one reframe: your body is communicating, not malfunctioning. You are not broken. You are human, and there is more context here than you were taught to see. Michelle's book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer, is available now at comingsoonbook.ca. Season 4 returns in September 2026.

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20 Apr, 2023

S02 - S2 - Ep 03

Christian & Pro-Sex

De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar is Missouri's first Black Christian AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, who helps clients navigate the intersection of faith and sexuality, particularly for those who may be struggling with guilt or shame around their sexual desires and behaviors. We talk about how De-Andrea removes shame from conversations around sex by using scripture that supports pleasure, a pro choice, orgasm, pleasure perspective. We also cover the systemic issues reinforcing the barriers to having more Black certified sex therapists in the field and what White Sex Therapists need to know about how racism continues to impact Black peoples relationship with sex - and how this will continue to be reinforced as White Sex Therapists continue working from a model of sex therapy that is based on the western White person’s experience.

Show Notes:

Wanting Christians to have good sex

Systemic racism and how it affects the representation of Black people in the field of sex therapy

Using Jesus as a conduit to carry the shame

Having shame free sex doesn't mean you have to leave behind your faith

How to be Christian and pro-choice

How racism impacts the way Black men view themselves as sexual beings

Some ways of thinking about sex as a Black woman that more White sex therapists should know about

Find De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar Here:

https://www.sankofasextherapy.com/therapists

Disclaimer

Michelle's book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer, is available now at comingsoonbook.ca.

GETSOME returns for Season 4 in September 2026. The through line is the same: your body is communicating, not malfunctioning. You are not broken.

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