Seniors Seeking Friends With Benefits

GETSOME

You know that feeling at 2am when you're Googling alone, hoping no one finds out? When sex feels complicated and there's no one safe to talk to about it? When you're wondering if something is wrong with you, or if you're the only one feeling this way? You're not. And you never were. GETSOME is the podcast for anyone who's carried sexual shame in silence. It's for the questions you've been too embarrassed to ask, the patterns that confuse you, and the nagging feeling that maybe you're not broken... you're just human. After a hiatus to complete her first book, certified sex therapist Michelle Fischler is back with the unshaming conversations you've been waiting for. GETSOME doesn't give you technique lists or clinical lectures. Instead, Michelle meets you at the exact point of your confusion and helps you see what's actually happening in your mind, body and your nervous system, so you can stop measuring yourself against myths and start trusting yourself. Coming April 28, 2026: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer. Learn more and pre-order at comingsoonbook.ca. Season 4 is in the works, and we're genuinely excited to be back. Michelle Fischler, MSW, RSW, RP, is an ASTO Certified Sex Therapist specializing in early ejaculation, sexual performance anxiety, and the unshaming approach — a framework that addresses the psychological roots of shame rather than symptoms alone.

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27 Mar, 2024

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Seniors Seeking Friends With Benefits

Finding a friend with benefits can be hard at any age. But today’s guest, Cynthia, faced the daunting task of finding a sexual partner at the age of 78 and following the loss of her husband. She knew that she wanted a friend with benefits, and she even had her eye on someone specific. But the ultimate hurdle? Asking him.

In this fascinating and refreshingly open conversation we discuss:

1. What it looks like to be sexually active in your later years of life

2. The stigma of being a senior citizen who craves casual sex.

3. The nuances of sex with aging bodies

4. Maintaining relationships with your “couple friends” after the loss of your long-term partner

5. How to continue experiencing sexual satisfaction in your 70’s and beyond. Show Notes:

Show notes:

Guest Introduction:

[00:01:28] Michelle introduces Cynthia, a 78-year-old widow, as the guest for this episode.
Cynthia shares her journey of grieving the loss of her husband and the subsequent feelings of loneliness and desire for companionship.

Exploring Desire and Loneliness:

[00:02:26] Cynthia discusses her newfound desires for companionship and sexual connection after her husband's passing.
She reflects on the emotional and physical changes she experienced and how they led her to consider exploring a friends with benefits relationship.

Challenges and Fears:

[00:03:39] Cynthia opens up about her fears surrounding trust, communication, and the societal expectations associated with relationships and aging.
Michelle and Cynthia discuss the complexities of initiating conversations about sexual desires and boundaries with potential partners.

Navigating Boundaries and Expectations:

[00:06:00] The conversation delves into the importance of setting boundaries, maintaining autonomy, and challenging societal norms in relationships.
Cynthia shares her concerns about potential changes in dynamics and expectations if her relationship with her friend were to become sexual.

Exploring Options and Self-Reflection:

[00:08:51] Michelle offers insights into alternative ways of meeting potential partners, such as matchmaking services and shared activities.
Cynthia reflects on the conversation and expresses gratitude for the insights.

Conclusion:

[00:10:21] Michelle thanks Cynthia for sharing her story and insights with listeners.
She encourages listeners to reach out with their own stories and experiences related to desire, intimacy, and sexual exploration after loss.

Closing Credits:

[00:11:39] Michelle provides information on how listeners can connect with the podcast, access online learning modules, and stay updated on future episodes.
Acknowledgment of the production team Katie and Kattie from Vocal Fry Studios

If our lens on sex resonates with you, Michelle’s first book—Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer— is now available on Audible.

Narrated by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios.

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Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer — Michelle's first book — is available for pre-order now. Audio version narrated by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios.

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