Shame doesn’t care how much it’s ruining your sex life. It just wants an audience. But instead of hitting up the concession stand, what if you sat in the front row and got curious? You might be surprised at what you learn (and how your body responds afterwards).
David Bedrick is the founder of The Unshaming Way and the author of five books. Instead of asking how to move past the shame, he asks what the shame is trying to say. Because you’re not a problem: you’re a person with a story whose symptoms carry lots of intelligence.
Content note: this episode briefly mentions childhood harm and sexual trauma.
Topics covered
- 00:00 Masculinity, erections, and cultural pressure
- 02:30 What shame is and why symptoms carry intelligence
- 04:28 How survival and cultural messages shape identity
- 07:58 Why fixing and technique can deepen shame
- 10:23 Listening to what erection difficulty and softness are saying
- 12:30 What an unshaming witness does differently
- 16:00 Gender, sexuality, and shame carried through silence
- 20:54 What to notice when shame appears during sex
- 21:50 Consent, “not yet,” and believing your body
- 23:24 Why you cannot technique your way out of shame
- 25:01 Healing as believing your own experience
- 26:36 David’s current trauma work, courses, and Substack
Find David Bedrick
Produced by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios, now in her third season with GETSOME.
Michelle's book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer, is available now at comingsoonbook.ca.
GETSOME returns for Season 4 in September 2026. The through line is the same: your body is communicating, not malfunctioning. You are not broken.
Shame doesn’t care how much it’s ruining your sex life. It just wants an audience. But instead of hitting up the concession stand, what if you sat in the front row and got curious? You might be surprised at what you learn (and how your body responds afterwards).
David Bedrick is the founder of The Unshaming Way and the author of five books. Instead of asking how to move past the shame, he asks what the shame is trying to say. Because you’re not a problem: you’re a person with a story whose symptoms carry lots of intelligence.
Content note: this episode briefly mentions childhood harm and sexual trauma.
Topics covered
- 00:00 Masculinity, erections, and cultural pressure
- 02:30 What shame is and why symptoms carry intelligence
- 04:28 How survival and cultural messages shape identity
- 07:58 Why fixing and technique can deepen shame
- 10:23 Listening to what erection difficulty and softness are saying
- 12:30 What an unshaming witness does differently
- 16:00 Gender, sexuality, and shame carried through silence
- 20:54 What to notice when shame appears during sex
- 21:50 Consent, “not yet,” and believing your body
- 23:24 Why you cannot technique your way out of shame
- 25:01 Healing as believing your own experience
- 26:36 David’s current trauma work, courses, and Substack
Find David Bedrick
Produced by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios, now in her third season with GETSOME.
Michelle's book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer, is available now at comingsoonbook.ca.
GETSOME returns for Season 4 in September 2026. The through line is the same: your body is communicating, not malfunctioning. You are not broken.
Did you know that the average person will spend a third of their life in the menopause transition?
We invite Certified Sex Therapist Nicole Schroeder this time to talk about ways to get comfortable with this stage of our life; How Generation X is pushing forward the conversation about menopause more than any other generation and, where to go for help when you are struggling with symptoms of perimenopause?
Show notes:
00:35 Our Guest Nicole Schroeder – Introduction
02:10 Everyone that has ovaries will go through menopause
06:40 How do you know when you are experiencing perimenopause?
09:20 Generation X are handling menopause differently compared to other generations
15:04 Menopause became a joke in western pop culture
21:53 Stop treating menopause as a mid-life crisis
31:53 Some symptoms can be treated under different methodologies
35:06 Pelvic pain is not all in your head
49:00 Expecting to always have an orgasm at the same time as your partner is similar to expecting to have a Michelin Star style meal every time you cook
54:00 Let’s talk about pelvic floor physiotherapy treatment next time
57:00 Where to find Nicole Schroeder?
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Nicole Schroeder is a Registered Social Worker with the College of Social Workers in Ontario (OCSWSSW). She is a certified member of BESTCO (Board of Examiners in Sex Therapy and Counselling in Ontario). She currently works in an outpatient gynecology clinic at a downtown Toronto hospital and in private practice, with a focus on individual, relationship, and sex therapy. Nicole also facilitates virtual groups on menopause, a variety of pelvic pain conditions and sexual wellbeing. She runs virtual groups at Bria, a virtual mental health clinic that provides support and treatment for cis-women, non-binary folks, and transgender women experiencing mental health challenges across their reproductive lifecycles.
Nicole Schroeder http://www.nicoleschroeder.ca/about.html
Instagram: @nicoleschroedertherapy
Menopause Support Groups: https://betterbria.janeapp.com/
Book: The Menopause Manifesto
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Michelle's book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer, is available now at comingsoonbook.ca.
GETSOME returns for Season 4 in September 2026. The through line is the same: your body is communicating, not malfunctioning. You are not broken.