Erectile Disappointment

GETSOME

You know that feeling at 2am when you're Googling alone, hoping no one finds out? When sex feels complicated and there's no one safe to talk to about it? When you're wondering if something is wrong with you, or if you're the only one feeling this way? You're not. And you never were. GETSOME is the podcast for anyone who's carried sexual shame in silence. It's for the questions you've been too embarrassed to ask, the patterns that confuse you, and the nagging feeling that maybe you're not broken... you're just human. After a hiatus to complete her first book, certified sex therapist Michelle Fischler is back with the unshaming conversations you've been waiting for. GETSOME doesn't give you technique lists or clinical lectures. Instead, Michelle meets you at the exact point of your confusion and helps you see what's actually happening in your mind, body and your nervous system, so you can stop measuring yourself against myths and start trusting yourself. Coming April 28, 2026: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer. Learn more and pre-order at comingsoonbook.ca. Season 4 is in the works, and we're genuinely excited to be back.

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1 Jun, 2023

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Erectile Disappointment

Show notes:

00:07 90% of people with a penis who are between 35 and 55 have struggled to get an erection firm enough for intercourse

03:17 What is Erectile Self Efficacy?

03:40 Autonomous sexual erections aren’t realistic

04:42 The alternative to panicking and apologizing

04:52 The "Good Enough Sex" Model

05:26 It's almost always the man's choice to stop having sex

07:32 Where did we go wrong in having guys believe that sex is always supposed to be this one way?

07:53 Men have been lied to about their sexuality

08:21 Responsive male sexual desire

08:45 Men lie to each other about sex

08:51 Using medications as part of erectile self efficacy

09:14 Self-consciousness is the most anti-erotic thing you do

09:37 How to reduce performance anxiety

10:39 Grandfather of sex, Bill Masters

10:50 How do you know a man is cured of erectile dysfunction?

11:14 What to say when penetration isn't going to be part of the sexual experience

11:33 Good Enough Sex Model and Michael Metz

12:37 Working together as an erotic ally

13:44 Desire is not based on performance - desire is based on sharing pleasure

14:27 Orgasm is not the best measure of satisfaction

14:52 Waxing and Waning of erections exercise

16:44 Sex is more than penetration

16:48 What is sex?

17:13 Prostate cancer

18:46 How to know when you are ready for penetration?

19:34 Why do men fail with pro erection medications?

20:17 Pro-penis approach

20:48 Medical evaluation is very important

21:49 Don't assume that because you have a medical problem, like cancer, diabetes, or heart condition, that you cannot be sexual

22:15 Missionary style is not the best position in your 60's. 70's, and 80's

25:26 This show is produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios

25:32 Show ideas or questions? Email michelle@getsome.ca and follow me on Instagram @getsome_podcast

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If our lens on sex resonates with you, Michelle’s first book—Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer— is now available on Audible.

Narrated by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios.

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Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer — Michelle's first book — is available for pre-order now. Audio version narrated by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios.

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